What happened to all of your questions?
Today. It’s your day.
It’s your day to ask a question. Questions are powerful, they can change your mind, start a relationship or lead you into an unexpected future.
I work as an Addiction Therapist and I tell my clients that as a Counsellor, I get paid per question. I don’t really get paid per question… but it’s true that the business of Counselling lives on the edge of well timed questions. I think that we all should get paid for the questions that we ask, maybe the world would be a different place?
A well timed question can do you a lot of good.
When you ask a lot of questions, is there a point where you don’t like the answers you are getting? I think that’s the point where you are getting somewhere. Growth occurs when you reach just beyond: beyond what you know, beyond who you currently are, and beyond where you are right now.
For the last four months, I have been preparing for an exam that will help me to improve my skills as a Counsellor. The process has reminded me that it is not books or your teachers who teach you. It is your questions. Your questions are like a gateway into possibility. Just like the photo for this blog, titled “Opportunity is often delivered in a fog of uncertainty,” by Thomas Leuthard.
What are the questions that you don’t have an answer to?
In a world where we trust in Google and Siri, we need to remember that it’s not what you know that can change you. What can change you is allowing the unanswered, the unknown to surround you once in a while.
Today, I offer you a few questions. They are not mine, I learned them from other people. I collect questions because… well because they are worth it. I was going to say that I collect questions because they are worth more than money, but that’s not really true. You can’t buy a Starbucks with only a question, but if you go to Starbucks and spend your dollars on a coffee, don’t go alone. Take your questions with you, because a good question can make your day.
10 of my favorite questions
- How long has it been since you laughed until your jaw hurt?
- Who knows you? Really knows you?
- What lights you up? What are you really excited about, right now?
- Who are you aside from the drugs, the alcohol, the shopping, or your work?
- What is one thing that you bring to your relationships that people will miss if you are gone?
- When was the last time you called your parents?
- When was the last time you pushed yourself really hard? Way out of your comfort zone?
- What are your dreams? And who have you shared them with?
- Who have you thanked for making your day a little better?
- What scares the hell out of you? Is it similar to the thing that excites you? Maybe it’s time to do the thing that most scares you?
- Bonus: What do you hate doing? Pay attention to it. Because maybe it’s time to make a change.
Recently, I posted on a Facebook chat, “Sometimes you don’t need to chase your dreams because they are chasing you.” Your questions remind you that you don’t need to go on a journey to find what is most important, because it is right where you are, right inside of you.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments: What are your best questions? Your favorites, the really good ones? The ones that change or brighten your day?
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Photo by Thomas Leuthard