How to Rescue Valentines Day from Perfectionism and Guilt?

7  Dumb-ass reasons why Valentines Day makes me say “Thank You” ___ “Well, here comes another Valentine’s Day, the most perplexing..I don’t know what it is exactly. Is it a national holiday? Nope. It’s a “put pressure on your relationship” day.” Joe Doe I am not a romantic person and I am not a fan of … More How to Rescue Valentines Day from Perfectionism and Guilt?

When is it Toxic to Hold Out Hope for Change?

All across our country, families, partners, sons and daughters and friends are heartbroken. People who use substances or alcohol at times can be distant, self-destructive and may create chaos that can be nearly impossible to resist. At times the substance use can fuel destructive conflict and even violence. Empowering hope accepts our genuine effort and … More When is it Toxic to Hold Out Hope for Change?

7 Things We Learn Growing Up With An Alcoholic Parent

Their pain is their own. We do not need to own our parents’ or other’s pain. “We internalized so much blame for the chaotic emotions and actions of our parents that it becomes second nature for us to take responsibility for other people’s pain and suffering.” Empathy is a strength when it is balanced by … More 7 Things We Learn Growing Up With An Alcoholic Parent