Accepting what we can change is self-care. It is doing what we can to improve ourselves, our life, our work just a little bit each day. It is the ugly-hard-uncomfortable stuff. It is learning that no matter how old, stubborn, inflexible, proud or independent we may be, we can do something. And then we do … More Acceptance is Self-Care
“Pay attention!” If we don’t pay our taxes, what happens? The government gets our attention, and then it will demand our interest. In the same way, if we don’t take a moment and pay attention, what happens? One way or another, life will do something to get our attention. And then life will also demand … More Either Choose to Pay Attention or Life Will Demand it… with Interest
How often do you brush your teeth? For most of us, it’s twice daily. We brush, floss and use breath freshener to do what we can to keep our teeth as healthy as we can. And why do we do this? Because our teeth are important and taking care of them is part taking care … More What if We Treated Our Mental Health Like We Treat Our Dental Health?
“If you mistake someone’s solution for a problem to be eliminated, not only are they likely to fail treatment, as often happens in addiction programs, but other problems may emerge.” Bessel Van Der Kolk, “The Body Keeps the Score” p. 147 Often, a mental illness is not the problem. It is a symptom of something … More Mental Illness is Solution, Not a Problem
“I find myself at times reacting to unseen threats… afraid of hurt, of wound. But now I know that I have love as my companion.” For the rest of the article, ” Love Will Change Your Relationship With Fear,” click on the photo. Photo by Ian Chen on Unsplash
We are in an age where self-care is cool and hard work, hard stuff is neither passionate, nor cool. Self-care is about setting boundaries that prioritize good health alongside time for employment, family relationships, “maintenance” of of our homes and possessions (which is another word for the ever-unpopular and uncool daily or weekly chores). For … More How to Embrace the Hard Work of Self-Care
Where we reject those who suffer, we also reject a part of ourselves and our humanity recedes one more step. Where we honor those in need, we use the power that we have to help ourselves and humanity to move towards a better way. If you (or your son or daughter or parent) were living … More When We Fear Others Because of Their Mental Illness, We Fear a Part of Ourselves