When is it Toxic to Hold Out Hope for Change?

All across our country, families, partners, sons and daughters and friends are heartbroken. People who use substances or alcohol at times can be distant, self-destructive and may create chaos that can be nearly impossible to resist. At times the substance use can fuel destructive conflict and even violence. Empowering hope accepts our genuine effort and … More When is it Toxic to Hold Out Hope for Change?

How Doing Nothing On Purpose will Help Your Recovery and Mental Health… But at First It Will Drive You CRAZY!

I confess, I love my unproductive time. If fact, if I am busy, busy, busy… I am not only less productive but also unhappy. I crave unstructured time where my mind can wander. But sometimes it can feel excruciating and I want to escape with a little (mindless) surfing. It’s a bit of a love-hate … More How Doing Nothing On Purpose will Help Your Recovery and Mental Health… But at First It Will Drive You CRAZY!

So Someone You Love Isn’t Making the Changes You Want Them to Make?

What’s the answer? Often we hear that “Tough Love is the answer.” But what can you do when tough love just isn’t the answer? “My family’s tough love approach played a big part in my attempting suicide,” he said. “It’s not their fault I attempted suicide, but their words and actions put me over the … More So Someone You Love Isn’t Making the Changes You Want Them to Make?

Tough Love Doesn’t Work: A New Approach to Helping Addicts

Guest Post by Claire Gillespie 03/22/17 You love your child. Your child is an addict. Your child needs help. How do you carry on showing that love, without supporting or enabling the addiction? Instead, professionals suggest setting boundaries and asking questions like “What do I need to do in order to support my own self-care … More Tough Love Doesn’t Work: A New Approach to Helping Addicts

The More You Fight, The More The Fight Will Fight With You

Fight, flee or freeze? Survival depends on making the right choice. Sometimes our minds get it wrong and our fight ends up locking us into behaviors that fight against us. Fighting for freedom can sometimes become a fight with freedom. I have learned that as I dropped the gloves, I won my life back. The … More The More You Fight, The More The Fight Will Fight With You